Marin Ballet<\/a> artistic director Cynthia Lucas recommend he go to Canada\u2019s National Ballet School, in Toronto (Marin Ballet also helped with a scholarship), where he was accepted at age 14. From there Lam\u2019s first male role model, Mikko Nissinen, who knew the young phenom from his days directing Marin Ballet and had just become artistic director of\u00a0Boston Ballet, recommended Lam join up.<\/p>\nHis mom agreed, saying it is best to go somewhere where someone knows you, and Lam worked his way up, becoming the first Vietnamese American principal dancer in history to dance in a major ballet company.<\/p>\n
But before any of that, Lam, returning home to his parents at the age of 20, had to tell them he was gay and engaged to a man 20 years his senior. \u201cIt was a hard thing for them to understand at first,\u201d Lam says, explaining that it was a learning curve for his parents. \u201cBut they did come to our wedding and I\u2019m very, very thankful to have parents that love me for who I am.\u201d<\/p>\n
Now, after 20 years of dancing at Boston Ballet, Lam has called it quits, performing his last show in May. \u201cI\u2019m in a place right now where I am at the top of my physical game and I want to leave the organization at the top,\u201d he says, adding that ballet dancing is very hard on the body. \u201cIt doesn\u2019t mean I\u2019m retiring from dance; I\u2019m going to be dictating what I want to do now.\u201d<\/p>\n
Beyond all the accolades from his peers at the ballet, there were a few other VIPs in attendance that made his grand finale even more special: Felecia Gaston, and his parents, who had never seen him dance professionally. \u201cAfterward I asked my mother and father \u2018How do you feel? Because this must have been a very epic situation for you to experience,\u2019\u2009\u201d Lam recalls.\u201cMy father said \u2018I didn\u2019t know that you were a big deal\u2019 and my mother said \u2018I\u2019m just so proud of you that you were able to do this all alone.\u2019\u2009\u201d For Lam that was the highlight of the evening.<\/p>\n
But this isn\u2019t the end: watch for more from Lam, including a nonprofit called LamDanceWorks, a position as an associate professor of dance at the Boston Conservatory at Berklee, a role in a new Amazon Prime show called\u00a0Etoile, and a memoir. Clearly not even retirement can slow John Lam down.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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